February news! The month of Valentines
Hello and welcome to my February newsletter 2019
In this month of Valentines, the spotlight falls on relationships and most importantly, the Loving connected presence we can have with ourselves.
Relationships are key to human functioning and survival of the species- we are social beings and work well in groups and communities, and in our closer relationships with friends and family. However, this does not mean our relationships are easy and don’t have to be worked at and nurtured-they do.
Our most important relationship is with ourself- how can we love others if we do not love ourself first?
In the mindful self- compassion programme we share research findings that support the positive changes we make in our relationships with others when we practice self-compassion. Research shows that self-compassionate people tend to be more caring and supportive in interpersonal relationships (Neff & Beretvas,2013; Wayment, West & Craddock, 2016) , and are more compassionate towards others (Neff and Pommier, 2013)
Have a listen to some of Kristin Neff’s excellent TED Talks on self-compassion here
Before we are able to offer loving connected presence to other beings- we first have to develop a loving and nurturing relationship towards ourselves, and this is the tricky part- the hardest part.
In western culture we are great at giving compassion to others – in fact it is culturally encouraged!
We have global, political relationships with our neighbours then our country counties work and friendships intimate and family we are socially connected beings but how do we connect with others if there is a disconnect with ourselves ? Mindful Self-Compassion teaches us to develop a healthy relationship with ourselves and research shows with self-compassion we have healthier relationships with others.
I teach the Mindful self-compassion course throughout the year and the next Mindful self compassion programme dates are coming up this Spring 2019 so check this page here for the next dates!
Some essential self-care
So we start within and it’s important that we recognise to be fully functional connected and present with the world around us and each other we first need to understand ourselves and accept ourselves and take good care of ourselves . We can do this in a number of ways and it is important that we meet our needs for our survival first and foremost through nutrition, sleep exercise , maintaining gods physical health and essentially emotionally addressing and managing stress so that we have firmer foundations with which to grow and flourish from.
Last month I had the good fortune to meet Dr Rangan Chaterjee and attend an excellent talk about stress. I have also watched the film heal and one of the key elements to longevity and wellness is stress management and bringing our mind and body in to a state of harmonious well-being.
The theme for the spring retreat is Loving kindness
This weekend is an opportunity to practice self care and compassion and take some time for you to replenish and rejuvenate and strengthen your relationship with yourself.
This is a beautiful and popular weekend and I am looking forward to delivering this special retreat again April 5-7
A weekend of mindfulness, self-compassion, guided reflection and practice, and deep relaxation.
IMPORTANT ONLY 5 SPACES LEFT! Get in touch asap if you would like to take one of those places.
Here’s some feedback from the 2018 Autumn retreat:
” 10/10 Excellent retreat and opportunity to reconnect with compassion exercises in a safe and supportive environment ”
“10/10 Its a lovely experience,led by a lovely person. Very restorative. This retreat helped me to ‘feel the meaning’ rather than ‘hear the words’
“10/10 Annette is such a lovely, warm and compassionate person. I found the weekend so relaxing and rejuvenating, and I feel much calmer and more centered!”
“9/10 A fabulous weekend to nourish and rejuvenate – ready to face life again, but from a calmer, more compassionate perspective”
I enjoyed the most:
“Being in nature, self-compassion exercises, connecting with old and new friends”
“Companionship, like-minded people, beautiful countryside,lovely food, and blissful meditation”
“Compassionate body scan, time in nature, meditation on equanimity”
“Annette’s input,company of others, lovely surroundings, the film, the food!”
“The slow, gentle pace, the morning meditation. The company as ever is delightfu
Look out for links to all the latest news and courses and offerings from Anxiety UK!
I am so thrilled and honoured to have the opportunity and privilege to accept the position of chair of the board of trustees on the board for Anxiety UK. I look forward to supporting AUK and offering discounted courses and retreats to its members! and keeping you posted on all the news from AUK HQ!
Anxiety UK is a national registered charity formed in 1970, by someone living with agoraphobia, for those affected by anxiety, stress, and anxiety- based depression.
To read more please Click Here »
As you know, I have the enormous privilege of being the chair of the board of trustees for the UK’s leading and multiple award- winning anxiety charity. Auk is at the forefront of supporting and helping those with anxiety and anxiety related disorders, providing access to essential resources 24/7 to everyone, especially those who might not otherwise receive the help they desperately need in any given moment . Auk ‘s Ceo and the team work tirelessly and selflessly and are dedicated to providing the most accessible and affordable services .
I am going to be offering a number of workshops and events over the coming months at AUK HQ in the heart of the north west in Manchester to raise awareness about stress and anxiety and the benefits of mindfulness and self- compassion, meditation.
Dates for your diaries!
I am running two introductory workshops at Nunes house Old Trafford on Friday March 22 from 2-5pm and on Saturday March 23 from 11.00am until 1pm so you have a choice!
The cost is £50 but if you are Anxiety UK member the cost is £40 -offering a great 20% discount I will be publishing the details later this week so for more information head over to my events page here.
I am offering a discount of 20% off all events and training I am facilitating at AUK to AUK members – for details of how to join AUK click here . Also 15% of all profit will be donated to AUK so they may continue to support the vulnerable and grow their services.
To book your place and for further information email me or call me on 07753 957371 – early booking recommended as limited spaces available and this workshop is very popular!
Sett Valley well-being works shops
Workshops: On the first Wednesday of every month(maximum 8 places) unless otherwise stated due to staff training and holidays then the date will be the following available Wednesday in that particular month so it is advisable to check the dates .
Time: 6.00pm -7.30pm .Limited places so early booking advised.
Where: All workshops will be held in the library upstairs at Sett Valley medical centre ,Hyde Bank Road, New Mills. Please report to reception on arrival and take a seat in the waiting room. I will collect everyone just before 6.00pm so please arrive by 5.55pm if you can.
Cost: £15 payable prior to the session either via bacs -contact me on 07753 957371 for details or by cash and note with name and which workshop and date in sealed envelope fao Annette Boden up to 4pm on the day of the workshop.
How to book: To book your place and for further information please Telephone 01663 743483 and select ‘option 6’ to speak to Corrine Dale and book your place.
Places are limited to 8 each month so early booking is advised.
Next workshop March 6 2019 “Sleeping well”
Do you suffer from long sleepless nights? Find that you can get off to sleep but wake through the night and have difficulty getting back to sleep? Do you feel exhausted when you get up in the morning and feel like you have not slept at all?
By attending this workshop you will:
- Learn how to get back into a natural rhythm of quality sleep to replenish and rejuvenate
- Pick up tips for sleeping better, getting off to sleep and staying asleep
- And learn a deep relaxation technique that will change your sleep patterns for the better.
In my private practice I teach mindfulness based compassion focused- approaches alongside psychotherapy and cognitive counselling to bringing about change and improving quality of life and I have the privilege of seeing huge change and success from these approaches. So do get in touch or call me on 07753 957371 if you would like help with anxiety issues, low mood, or other issues you feel I may be able to help you with.
Wishing you all well and happy, this new year month of February 2019
Thank you so much for your continued support and as I continue to develop my programmes and offerings.
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